Let's identify bullying and then go over strategies for coping/prevention.

What is bullying?  

Bullying is a distinctive pattern of repeatedly and deliberately harming and humiliating others, specifically those who are smaller, weaker, younger, or in any way more vulnerable than the bully. The deliberate targeting of those of lesser power is what distinguishes bullying from garden-variety aggression.

Bullying can involve verbal attacks (name-calling and making fun of others) as well as physical ones, threats of harm, other forms of intimidation, and deliberate exclusion from activities. Studies indicate that bullying peaks around ages 11 to 13 and decreases as children grow older. Overt physical aggression such as kicking, hitting, and shoving is most common among younger children; relational aggression—damaging or manipulating the relationships of others, such as spreading rumors, and social exclusion—is more common as children mature.

Most bullying occurs in and around school and on playgrounds, although the internet lends itself to particularly distressing forms of bullying.

Behavioral strategies1. Could you give praise and rewards when rules are followed? Children with ADHD often receive and expect criticism more so than other children. This can impact self-esteem. Some days, you might have to look for good behavior, but you should praise good behavior at least five times more often than you criticize bad behavior.2. Give clear, effective directions or commands. Make eye contact or gently touch your arm or shoulder to get his or her attention. Give brief, simple steps and short commands that get to the point rather than multiple directions or wordy statements and questions.3. Establish healthy habits. Ensure your child is getting enough sleep, eating a well-balanced diet consisting of three meals, a snack, and adequate fluids daily, and has an outlet for some form of daily exercise. These healthy habits will help your child to feel his or her best.4. Develop routines around homework and chores. Work together to make a checklist of what needs to be done surrounding daily chores, getting ready for bed and school for your child to refer to when he or she gets off task. Encourage your child to use a daily planner.  Have an established time and location for homework, and use a timer to remind your child to show you their homework.  Factor in breaks. 5. Help your child build relationships, strong social skills and maintain friendships. Be a good role model of behavior you want your child to use. Factor in some special time several days a week with your child that is conflict-free and does not involve a screen. Help your child develop at least one close friendship. With younger children, parents may need to take the lead to arrange and host play dates or get kids involved in activities where there are kids the same age.

Diet tips:

• vegetables
• fruits
• sources of protein, such as eggs, milk, lean meat, nuts, soy, and low fat yogurt
• healthy fats, such as fatty fish, avocado, chia seeds, flaxseed, and tofu
• complex carbohydrates, such as beans, lentils, peas, brown rice, oatmeal, and whole grains
• sources of vitamin B, such as leafy greens, broccoli, and chickpeas
• sources of zinc, iron, and magnesium, such as in poultry, seafood, meat, nuts, and soy
• omega-3 fatty acids, such as in salmon, walnuts, and edamame

Adult Strategies for Coping with ADHDGet organizedFollow a routine

Make big tasks smaller

Minimize distractions

Acknowledge your limits

Declutter

• Use a day planner: Use a calendar, planner notebook or smart device to record all activities and appointments every day.
• Schedule your organization: Add tasks to your planner as actionable appointments. For example, pencil in 15 minutes to tidy up the living room at 7 p.m. every day. Designate 30 minutes to clean up the office as part of an ongoing decluttering project.
• Create a “home” for items: Once you determine where an item belongs, consider that location to be its home. For example, place a tray near your entry to hold your keys, sunglasses and wallet — and always return those items to that spot.
• Use color coding or labels: For work or personal items, color-coded, labeled storage containers and files can prioritize items by topic or importance.

• Adjust your work schedule: Start work earlier in the day or stay later than usual when it’s quieter at the office.
• Maintain a clean desk: Keep your workspace clutter-free to prevent visual distraction.

• Turn off notifications: Route calls to voicemail. If you can, turn off message notifications. Check your messages at set times during the day.
• Use noise-canceling headphones: Headphones are ideal for busy or loud environments.
• Choose a quiet space: Request a quiet office space or cubicle.
• Listen to music: Play music or a white noise machine. Research shows that music structure

If you start each morning feeling optimistic about how much work or activity you can incorporate into your day, you’re not alone. Many people take on more tasks than they can handle or underestimate the amount of time they need to get things done.  Nothing creates more pressure than committing yourself beyond your limits day after day. Failing to deliver on your promises, whether you’ve made them to your boss, family, friends or yourself, can take the wind out of your sails and leave you feeling even more scattered than usual.

How ADHD Affects Kids:

ADHD causes kids to be more inattentive, hyperactive, and impulsive than is normal for their age. ADHD makes it harder for kids to develop the skills that control attention, behavior, emotions, and activity. As a result, they often act in ways that are hard to manage.  

At first, parents might not realize that behaviors are part of ADHD. It may seem like a child is just misbehaving. ADHD can leave parents feeling stressed, frustrated, or disrespected.

Parents may feel embarrassed about what others think of their child's behavior. They may wonder if they did something to cause it. But for kids with ADHD, the skills that control attention, behavior, and activity don't come naturally.

When parents learn about ADHD and which parenting approaches work best, they can help kids improve and do well.

For example, because they are inattentive, kids with ADHD may: 

• seem distracted
• seem not to listen
• have trouble paying attention
• not follow directions well
• need many reminders to do things
• show poor effort in schoolwork
• have trouble getting organized

Because they are hyperactive, kids with ADHD may:

• climb, jump, or roughhouse when it's time to play quietly
• fidget and seem unable to sit still
• rush instead of take their time
• make careless mistakes
• be on the go (constantly in motion)

Because they are impulsive, kids with ADHD may: 

• interrupt a lot
• blurt out
• do things without thinking
• do things they shouldn't, even though they know better
• have trouble waiting, taking turns, or sharing
• have emotional outbursts, lose their temper, or lack self-control